Your career unhappiness started in school

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Todays’ contribution is an extended reflection on how much old fashioned school systems, prepare us for failure and deception, and what we can do NOW to repair it.

I don’t know about you, but apparently we are again a few weeks from Christmas, and I really don’t feel like it. 

Did you see that coming?

 I did not.

I actually don’t feel ready for Christmas, but I feel ready for a break.

A break from an intense year, from all the exciting projects, from all the interactions and exchanges, from all the inputs and ideas. And personally also a break from learning.

I am a lifelong learner, for sure, and don’t get me wrong, I absolutely adore it. 

But I cannot wait for a break this year. Sleeping, walking in nature, chilling, and reading. Reading for pleasure and not for learning.

Learning.

We started with it in school-we all went to school, at least in this part of the world.

Today I want to tell you that the schooling system where we learned how to perform, literally fails.

“What?”

 You might say.

Yes, I repeat, the school system fails at teaching us an immensely important thing.

How to handle our emotions.

 

We do not learn how to handle our emotions, and we do not learn how to understand what we are really good at , and what we like doing. We all go through the same school program. 

Most of all we were not taught to understand why we feel in a certain way, especially when we are unhappy. 

Because of this,  when we are unhappy in our careers, this happens:

The first is that we don’t understand why we’re unhappy–we can’t pinpoint the reason, so we think it’s illogical to feel unhappy or think there’s no way to get rid of those negative feelings. The second is that we don’t know what to do–we know what’s wrong, but don’t think it can be changed or see no viable option to pursue.

So far, what I learned is that these are the main reasons people are unhappy at their careers: 

Pay

Stability

Future perspectives

Other people

Requirements/Pressure

Flexibility

The work itself

Do any of these apply to you? If so, which are the most relevant ones? Try to isolate each of these factors and identify their root causes. If nothing else, it will help you better understand the roots of your unhappiness.

Here are some tips for you:

  • First, recognize that there’s a difference between moments of unhappiness and ongoing unhappiness. Are you truly unhappy in your work, or are you just having a bad week? 

  • If you know that your unhappiness isn’t likely to go away on its own, your next step is to make positive changes in your environment. 

  • No job is perfect. Don’t compare your happiness level to what it would be in an idealized “perfect” work environment. 

  • If you’re truly unhappy at work, there’s no reason to allow that unhappiness to continue. It’s entirely within your power to make positive changes in your own life, even if that means leaving this job for another opportunity

Each of these steps require that you learn how to recognize and handle your emotions, which in itself is not an easy thing, as career unhappiness brings up many emotions, all at once.

There’s a difference between learning it by myself and getting good at it because of who I learned from.

The latter has much more potential and takes much less time.

Sometimes it’s too late to course-correct because of the many things you must unlearn and undo at that point.

The same goes for your career and life.

But taking it to the next level sooner than later requires learning from someone who can pick up on the smallest things and provide you with feedback so that you never stray off the right path.

And you will arrive at your destination with more success and in less time than if you tried to do it yourself.

Once I learned this principle, I made sure to pick the right mentor every time I wanted to learn something new. 

Fitness? Let me find the best personal trainer to train me. 

Marketing? Let me find the best marketer to show me. 

Health? Let me find the best practitioner to work with.

Do you want to figure out the best career success strategy for your own personal career path ? Then let me help you uncover the root issue, formulate a strategy on how to get you there, and get to your destination in a much shorter time.

Book a call with me to discuss what that would look like for you.

To your success,

Claudia

Claudia De Pasquale

Claudia De Pasquale GmbH
Dammstrasse 16
8810 Horgen-Switzerland

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